Treating Adults with Down Syndrome Like Adults: A Guide to Dignity and Respect

It’s important to recognize and treat adults with Down syndrome the way they deserve—with dignity, respect, and a full understanding of their capabilities. Just like any other adult, they have the ability to contribute meaningfully to their communities, pursue their goals, and live fulfilling lives. But how do we ensure we’re treating them with the respect they deserve? Here are some key things to DO and NOT DO when interacting with adults with Down syndrome.

What to Do

Assume Capability

Adults with Down syndrome are capable of doing many things, just like any other adult. Whether it’s holding a job, living independently, voting, or being an active member of society, start by assuming they can handle it. Give them the same opportunities you would anyone else.

Use Age-Appropriate Language

Speak to adults with Down syndrome in the same tone and manner you would use with any adult. Patronizing or “baby talk” is not only unnecessary but also disrespectful. They are adults, and deserve to be spoken to as such.

Promote Independence

Encourage and support their independence. Rather than immediately offering to help, let them try tasks on their own. Whether it’s ordering at a restaurant, completing tasks at work, or handling personal decisions, allow them the space to act on their own. Be there to assist only when asked or needed.

Celebrate Their Achievements

Adults with Down syndrome achieve great things. From graduating school to securing jobs to living independently, they are capable of remarkable accomplishments. Acknowledge and celebrate their successes, just as you would anyone else’s.

Respect Their Choices

Every adult, regardless of ability, has the right to make their own choices. Respect their decisions, whether it’s about how they spend their time, who they socialize with, or what they want to achieve. Help them by offering guidance when appropriate but understand that their decisions are their own.

Support Their Right to Participate

Adults with Down syndrome can vote, get married, hold jobs, and be active members of their communities. Advocate for their right to participate fully in society. Ensure that they have access to the same opportunities as everyone else.

What NOT to Do

Don’t Ignore Their Boundaries

Adults with Down syndrome have boundaries like anyone else. Respect their personal space, preferences, and autonomy. Don’t assume you know what they want or need without asking.

Don’t Infantilize Them

Avoid treating adults with Down syndrome like children. We don’t need to call them “cute” or act “surprised” when they talk about an adult topic. They have adult interests, needs, and desires. Infantilizing them undermines their autonomy and potential.

Don’t Assume They Can’t

Too often, people assume individuals with Down syndrome can’t do things before even giving them a chance. Don’t make that mistake. Give them the opportunity to show what they are capable of before offering assistance.

Don’t Make Decisions for Them

Adults with Down syndrome have the right to make their own choices. Whether it’s about work, relationships, or day-to-day activities, don’t assume you know what’s best for them without involving them in the decision-making process.

Don’t Over-Help

While it’s natural to want to lend a hand, offering too much help can strip someone of their independence. Instead, be available if needed but allow them the time and space to complete tasks on their own.

Respecting Their Role in Society

Adults with Down syndrome have the potential to be active, productive members of their communities. They can work, volunteer, vote, and participate in social activities. In fact, many adults with Down syndrome live independently, attend college, hold meaningful jobs, and contribute positively to their communities.

By treating them with the respect and dignity they deserve, we can help them thrive. It starts with understanding that they are adults with full, rich lives, and by respecting their independence, capabilities, and choices. We must create an inclusive world that sees them for who they truly are, which is adults!

Let’s remember that every adult—regardless of their abilities—deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. When we approach adults with Down syndrome with this mindset, we create a more just and compassionate society where everyone can thrive and be included.